When we bare our inwardness fully, exposing our strengths and frailties alike, we discover a kinship in all living things. And from this kinship a kindness moves through us and between us. The mystery is that being authentic is the only thing that reveals to us our kinship with life. It is why we are … More Putting Ourselves Fully ‘Before’ Another
In loving ourselves, we love the world. For just as fire, rock and water are all made up of molecules, everything, including you and me, is connected by the small piece of the beginning. Yet, how to we love ourselves? It is as difficult at times as seeing the back of your head. I have … More Loving Yourself
Living through enough, we all come to this understanding: No matter what path we choose, there will always be conflict to negotiate. If we choose to avoid all conflict with others, we will eventually breed a poisonous conflict within ourselves. Likewise, if we attend to our inner lives, who we are will, sooner or later, … More The Friction of Being Visible
We were born with only one obligation – to be completely who we are. Yet, how much of of our time is spent comparing ourselves to others? This is encouraged by our elders as necessary in the pursuit of excellence. I can still hear my mother’s voice, “Why can’t you be more like ______ ?” … More We Were Born With Only One Obligation
I grew up with the kind of religious belief that almost everything I thought, said or did was a sin, and that everything that went wrong in my life was a punishment for all the things I thought, said or did. I was so afraid of being punished for doing the ‘wrong’ thing, that I … More Is Fear Paralyzing You?
Everything we’ve experienced in our life so far, has given us the strength to separate from what no longer serves us. The past can hold treasured memories, but thinking about it isn’t helpful when it’s not positive, especially when it keeps us chained to the past. Because repetitive thinking about upsetting past events can intensify … More Letting Go of the Past and Set Yourself Free
As is mostly the case, my feelings of “not enough” stemmed from my childhood. Looking back, I had an idyllic childhood. We always had enough. We had our own home, a swimming pool, plenty of food, annual vacations. But my mother was very, er, thrifty, to put it mildly. In my younger years, I was … More You ARE Enough! Never Settle
The best (and worst) thing that happened to me was when I read the words, “You are responsible for everything that has happened in your life up until now.” I remember everything about that moment 17 years ago. It was a beautiful summer’s day and I was sitting in an office working at a job … More The Best (and Worst) Day of My Life